Did I tell you that there was a time, many years ago, when I didn’t like
saris very much? Had someone told me then that I’d not only be gaga over saris and
that I’d go on to write sari style articles and even a book (Everyday Sari
Style) about them one day, I’d have rolled around with laughter.
photo: chandana
My relationship with saris was difficult at the best. I
loathed the tussle that ensued every time I got one out from my trousseau box,
wrestling with the pleats and pallu for hours, wondering if sari-wearing was
some kind of new workout. I also didn’t think that saris were chic. Wearing
them once in a while was okay, but give me a pair of smart trousers or even a
party gown for dressy occasions. That’s what I used to think at that time.
In a nutshell, I believed that saris were fussy and belonged
to our mothers’ generation. How wrong I was!
photo: pinterest
If you think that sari-wearing can be time-consuming or
fussy, or that a pair of stone-washed jeans is better for a day out, then here
are some tips to help you ease into the 6-yards of magic, and eventually fall
in love with it.
1. Choose
a few saris that you like the look and feel of. Don’t
start your sari-wearing ‘career’ with textures that you don’t enjoy. If heavy
brocaded silks aren’t your cuppa or if blingy net saris don’t light your fire,
then don’t feel pressured to wear them (just because these came as part of your
trousseau or they are your mom/mom-in-law/spouse/best friend/partner’s
favorite.) So, if pastel-hued chiffons or crisp cottons or soft Maheshwaris
entice you more, keep those saris handy.
photo: byloom
2. Let go
of perfection. Saris are often associated with the ‘just right’
look. But I beg to differ. So what if your pleats are little uneven or if your
pallu is shorter than you meant it to be? So what if after all the effort, your
cotton sari comes out a tad crumpled or that silk one looks a teeny bit
scrunched? The sun will still shine, the sky will hold up and the day will be
just as bright as you let it be. When you’ve just started wearing saris or are
wearing them after a very long break, don’t aim for perfection. Aim for
happiness – the warm, fuzzy feeling that comes with looking regal in a sari.
3. Don’t
be too concerned about wearing a matching blouse. In my
opinion, always matching your blouse to a sari can get tedious and a wee bit
boring. I used to have stacks of matching blouses to go with my saris, but I
really started having fun the day I gave those away and brought out my t-shirts
and tops to mix-and-match with my saris. So, get wacky with your blouse options.
photo: parama
4. Make your
ensemble exciting with funky accessories. A necklace with chunky
beads or one with a large silver pendant; beautiful dangling earrings or that
classic jhumka; an armful of jingling bangles; a large round bindi; or, some
bohemian spectacle frames. Choose a couple of accessories to add sparkle to
your already dazzling sari.
5. Take
help but also learn the tricks. It’s totally normal to get
your mom, friend or spouse to help you with the pleats. But every time you wear
a sari, also pay a little attention to ways to make the sari-wearing quicker.
(Sari Divas – would you like to share some tips to wear saris quickly? Do let
me know in the comments section.) It’s these little tips and tricks that add to
your confidence in wearing and carrying off the sari.
photo: parama
6. Do
casual in saris. As sari novices, we tend to put a lot of
pressure on ourselves to get the look right while getting ready for an occasion
or a big party. We’re way too conscious about how we’re looking in a sari and
scared that the pleats will unravel the moment we step into the crowd or hop
onto the dance floor. This messes up with the special feeling that a sari
generally bestows upon its wearer. So initially, try wearing saris to restaurants,
for movie dates or for a coffee evening with friends. As you ease into the
outfit and are able to own your sari style, you’ll feel more confident dressing
up in a sari for a major event.
7. Don’t
compare yourself to others. When I’d started wearing saris, I’d always
feel that the other ladies at a party were so much more confident or well
put-together in a sari than me. This made me wish that I’d been wearing a
trouser-suit or a dress rather than this 6-yards of fabric that I kept stumbling
on. Looking back, I feel that saris are like journeys. You do go from being a
self-conscious sari greenhorn to a confident sari queen. But it takes time. And
the best way to enjoy this journey is to have fun every single time we wear a
sari!
If you’d
like more tips to enjoy your sari-wearing story, then grab my Free Ebook called
‘Everyday Sari Style: 22 Ideas to keep it fresh, fun & fuss-free’. Pop-in
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How do you make sari-wearing fun for
yourself?
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