Monday, August 29, 2016

5 Tips to get you started on the Sari + Spectacles combo

Till a few months ago, I held the same notion as a lot of women. The idea that glasses cannot be paired with a sari. 

I would scrabble for my contact lens, hastily popping them in because I just didn’t want to sport a pair of spectacles while dressing up in my sari. Though I’ve grown quite comfortable with my glasses (I’ve been wearing them since I was 8 years old and yes, I did eat my carrots) and don’t just write them off as home-wear, when it came to decking up for a party, I’d stuff them back in their case, truly believing that a marriage between glasses and saris was just not that conducive.

However, these past few months, I’ve developed a new sort of respect for my glasses. I’ve been choosing spectacles over contact lens because the latter has been making my eyes dry, and what started as a quest for comfort has developed into a wholesome respect for this necessary accessory.

Gingerly experimenting, I also started wearing them with saris, and soon discovered that they actually notch up my sari style. And they actually bring out the true me – a nerdy sari girl, who’s equal parts introvert and extrovert.

So, if you wear spectacles too (or thinking of getting a pair as an accessory), but haven’t tried teaming them up with a sari, then here are 6 tips to get started:

Choose a spectacle frame that you really like and that suits your face. While some inputs from the salesperson is okay, finally go in for a pair that you like the most. Because if you don’t like it much now, you’re sure to not wear it once you bring it home.

Darker or thicker frames go better with saris than rimless ones. This is just my opinion based on what I’ve observed over the years as a spectacle wearer, but I do feel that spectacle frames in black, brown, tortoise shell, wine red, deep blue and dark gray look so much more apt with saris. (However, if you’re more comfortable with rimless ones or with frames in very light colors, then that’s totally up to you.)

Get the right kind of lenses for your glasses. If you wear powered spectacles, do ask the person at the optical shop to lay out the options for you. There are a variety of lenses in the market today, and I like to use lenses that are light, easy to clean, smudge-free, has UV rays protection, and does not reflect back. This cuts out eye strain and the constant annoyance at having to clean it every second.

Define your eyes with kohl before you wear your spectacles. Or, if you enjoy more elaborate eye makeup complete with mascara and eye-shadow, then a smoky look will go well with your glasses.

Avoid using eye makeup that smudges easily because then there’ll be smudges on your glasses and believe me, it is tedious to keep cleaning them all the time.

All you need to do is wear your glasses with saris a few times before feeling more comfortable with this pairing. So, go ahead and tap that inner geeky diva inside you with this sari + spectacles look.

What holds you back from wearing glasses with saris? What kind of spectacle styles do you like? Hope over to our Facebook Page to let us know or write a comment below.

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Thursday, August 25, 2016

11 ways to say "No" to gossip

Let’s get to the point. Gossip is woven into the fabric of our lives, whether we like it or not. We attract it, indulge in it, abhor it. It follows us around as we make our way around the office (if you have gossipers there); peeps out from across the wall, when we live in tightly-knit communities with glass houses and time spooling out in luxurious swirls. It can follow us around like a faithful puppy, hold us captive like a dress two sizes small, remind us how painful it can sometimes be, like a shoe that's too tight.

We get chastised for indulging in gossip, or even for attracting it. And if you let it, it can tie you up in knots, making you flounder with self-doubt at every step. So what do you do, when the tentacles of gossip promise to hold you in its cold embrace? Whatever you do, don't spend too much of your precious time getting a headache or feeling desperately low. 

Here’s what I do when gossip comes calling:

1. “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild, precious life?” – Mary Oliver. Write this and put it up around the house. It’s true isn’t it, that the time we have on earth is precious and it makes absolutely no sense frittering it away, fretting about what others think of us or expect out of us.

2. Spread joy. Like anyone, I often get bothered when a scrap of gossip is thrown my way. But I do understand that the gossip-creators may get some sort of happiness from their flirtation with negativity. So if this spreads joy in someone’s life, if gossiping about me gives someone something to do, as worthless as it may be, then so be it. As long as they are happy and I am happy, that’s all that really matters.

3. Stay inspired. In my work as a journalist, I often meet people who are making a change in this society, by working towards a cause or helping others. It’s amazing what some people do with their time. We all have 24 hours, but while some spend it gossiping or worrying too much about what others say, there are those who are making a huge difference in this world. And I realize that I have a choice about what I can do with my time, and I graciously choose the latter.

4. Be grateful. I have so much of gratitude for what I have – my family, my talents and creativity, a certain sense of grounding and spirituality. I would be a fool to let any of this get tarnished because of what others expect or talk about me.

5. Acknowledge the suffering in the world. While I do not enjoy reading newspapers full of calamity reports, I am well aware of the suffering that is a daily part of this world and the lives of fellow humans. Just this acknowledgement can put things in perspective and I understand how self-created issues like gossip are.

6. You are the boss of you. I’m known to be a bit of a rebel, but really, I don’t believe that anything negative that anyone says about me, should make me change my ways (unless it’s harmful). Others’ opinions are just that – opinions and that’s where I like to keep them, at an arm’s distance.

7. What others think of you is none of your business. I mean really, if it’s their business, why should you really pay much heed to it anyway? We can’t control others' thoughts and words, and also, this is a free country, so just turn the other way and find other meaningful things to do.

8. Stay loose (i.e don't get uptight about it). Can tying yourself up in knots, worrying about what people will think stop others from thinking or talking? Since it can’t, lead life on your own terms. As long as you’re kind and not going out of your way to hurt anyone, every